Hello Readers and Friends,
I feel I need to be brutally honest I've been working on this piece for about a week, and I have just come to realize that all this sharing is emotionally draining. Its has taken me a bit to get up the energy to finish this piece. Happy Reading Friends.
Last couple of days I have been skimming writings of My Late Best Friend. Some published some not. Many are completed and many are just mere random thoughts she jotted down so they were not forgotten and maybe turned into a masterpiece later, but as I read them they are all masterpieces to me. Her voice can be heard clear as though she was sitting next to me reading them aloud. I came across one such piece of work that she publish almost to the day 7 years ago. It was called Changing the condition of my heart, when I read this it made me realize how far we had come as a couple, but some of those struggles mentioned in that piece still were true till the day the Lord took her home. Marriage is hard it takes work, we were working on mentoring other couples so that maybe their struggles could be softened by bringing forth our experiences and struggles that often married life brings. Especially when it seems at times you are two ships in the night passing, trying not to create waves so that one may not be disturbed of sleep or awoken abruptly as both have schedules to keep. To find that balance of courtship and to be attentive for one another as kids and work bring along a whole other group of needs that require our full regard. Married life Christian or not, is not always going to be pretty flower gardens and rainbows. Life is messy and hard it takes commitment, it takes being able to compromise. It takes one to over look our partners flaws the things that may completely annoy us, because those battles may just not be worth waging. I did learn through 24 years worth of marriage how to disarm My Best Friend. That was merely just through a hug. I believe I've written about this before, I'm repeating this so that for you that have forgotten or have not read that piece yet. You just maybe able to deter a battle that does not need to be had by a mere hug. A hug can change the condition of our heart very quickly, it can change the condition of your partners heart as well. Her writing resonated with me that we need to look at each other as God looks at us through our brokenness, or our bad day, or our built up emotions that we must keep in check. But it's what we do when the emotions boil over and we want to react instead of keep them at bay. Sometimes it would be good for us to be furtive in our actions showing one we love them unconditionally just as God loves us. We are human we mess up never perfect. In fact as
All have turned away;
all alike have become corrupt.
There is no one who does good,
not even one. Psalm 14:3
According to scripture not one of us is good, not one.
In our marriages we must realize this together and change our hearts towards one another.
Therefore, let us no longer judge one another. Instead decide never to put a stumbling block or pitfall in the way of your brother or sister. Romans 14:13
Why would we put stumbling blocks in front of our spouses, because our hearts look inward towards our feelings. Look outward and cherish the one God has partnered you with. Im so grateful My Best Friend and my faith in God inspired me to write this, because I may not have her here anymore, but we can still proclaim what it was to struggle and fight for our marriage by changing our hearts. May you change your heart towards your spouse today if needed. I hope someone benefits from reading this today. May we love like Jesus more everyday because He loved us first.
Blessings
Triple Legacy
I feel I need to be brutally honest I've been working on this piece for about a week, and I have just come to realize that all this sharing is emotionally draining. Its has taken me a bit to get up the energy to finish this piece. Happy Reading Friends.
Last couple of days I have been skimming writings of My Late Best Friend. Some published some not. Many are completed and many are just mere random thoughts she jotted down so they were not forgotten and maybe turned into a masterpiece later, but as I read them they are all masterpieces to me. Her voice can be heard clear as though she was sitting next to me reading them aloud. I came across one such piece of work that she publish almost to the day 7 years ago. It was called Changing the condition of my heart, when I read this it made me realize how far we had come as a couple, but some of those struggles mentioned in that piece still were true till the day the Lord took her home. Marriage is hard it takes work, we were working on mentoring other couples so that maybe their struggles could be softened by bringing forth our experiences and struggles that often married life brings. Especially when it seems at times you are two ships in the night passing, trying not to create waves so that one may not be disturbed of sleep or awoken abruptly as both have schedules to keep. To find that balance of courtship and to be attentive for one another as kids and work bring along a whole other group of needs that require our full regard. Married life Christian or not, is not always going to be pretty flower gardens and rainbows. Life is messy and hard it takes commitment, it takes being able to compromise. It takes one to over look our partners flaws the things that may completely annoy us, because those battles may just not be worth waging. I did learn through 24 years worth of marriage how to disarm My Best Friend. That was merely just through a hug. I believe I've written about this before, I'm repeating this so that for you that have forgotten or have not read that piece yet. You just maybe able to deter a battle that does not need to be had by a mere hug. A hug can change the condition of our heart very quickly, it can change the condition of your partners heart as well. Her writing resonated with me that we need to look at each other as God looks at us through our brokenness, or our bad day, or our built up emotions that we must keep in check. But it's what we do when the emotions boil over and we want to react instead of keep them at bay. Sometimes it would be good for us to be furtive in our actions showing one we love them unconditionally just as God loves us. We are human we mess up never perfect. In fact as
All have turned away;
all alike have become corrupt.
There is no one who does good,
not even one. Psalm 14:3
According to scripture not one of us is good, not one.
In our marriages we must realize this together and change our hearts towards one another.
Therefore, let us no longer judge one another. Instead decide never to put a stumbling block or pitfall in the way of your brother or sister. Romans 14:13
Why would we put stumbling blocks in front of our spouses, because our hearts look inward towards our feelings. Look outward and cherish the one God has partnered you with. Im so grateful My Best Friend and my faith in God inspired me to write this, because I may not have her here anymore, but we can still proclaim what it was to struggle and fight for our marriage by changing our hearts. May you change your heart towards your spouse today if needed. I hope someone benefits from reading this today. May we love like Jesus more everyday because He loved us first.
Blessings
Triple Legacy
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